Do I Have To Tell My Parents That I am Going In To Rehab?November 30, 2015 - Addiction Treatment, Recovery - 0 Comments
Addiction is a disease, and like all diseases patients deserve privacy. As long as you are an adult it is your right to wait to reveal that you are in treatment for addiction. Parents, please know that this is not an attack against you – it is in fact often because of how much your son or daughter loves you that they do not want you to know how deeply they are suffering.
However, finding a supportive family member or friend to confide in is a good idea if possible. They likely already know more than you think, and can learn how to support you while you prepare for a new and better future. Recent research backs the idea that community support, family involvement and positive reinforcement are key to staying sober. Though you and your family may have already gone through weeks, months, or years of hurt and frustration in the course of this struggle, those emotions almost always come from a place of worry and love.
Teach Your Family To Help
Even doctors need special training to address addiction. You and your family will have to learn to navigate sobriety together one day at a time. As much as they love you, they will need guidance in order to properly help and support you. The first few months of sobriety are the hardest, especially the weeks immediately after leaving rehab, and having your parents ready to support you without enabling you is important. Being able to talk honestly with each other and each take responsibility for previous actions that led to the addiction in the first place is also a key component of success. Apologizing to them and also forgiving them can be an incredibly freeing step on the journey to sobriety.
Research Payment And Insurance Options
New insurance regulations mean that young adults can remain on their parent’s insurance for longer. If you are in your mid-twenties and are worried about paying for rehab, it may be possible for your parents to help. This can be a strong argument towards letting them know your situation – often the last thing you’ll want to deal with while getting clean is an insurance company. Your parents will already know the first 18 years of your medical history and will be in an ideal position to both get insurance approval. They may even be so relieved that you are getting treatment that they will choose to help pay for it themselves.
Choosing To Stay Anonymous
With all that said, there can be good reasons to remain anonymous as well. If your parents are struggling themselves with addiction, or if they have proven to be a negative influence in the past, choosing to wait until your sobriety is more stable is intelligent. Putting yourself first in a healthy way can be a positive step in your own recovery. Sometimes addiction begins in an effort to self-medicate emotional or physical pain. If your parents are part of that pain, recovery can include learning to let the past go and step into a brighter future. Treatment will help you to clarify whether a relationship with your parents is possible or not and will teach you to trust your own instincts.