How You Can Help Your Addicted Husband Get the Help He NeedsOctober 16, 2018 - Addiction - 0 Comments
A Husband and Father should be a source of pride and strength in a family. His role is often to create a stable center that the family holds to in times of crisis. However, husbands are only human and cannot be superhuman pillars of strength at all times. Unfortunately, the growing epidemic of opiates and opioids spreading through the country may affect even the toughest and most reliable father and husband.
If your husband has fallen victim to this substance, it is very easy to feel despair and depression. Nobody could blame you if the trauma of watching your husband shoot up paralyzed you and made it impossible to seek out treatment. And trying to argue against a stubborn – and addicted – husband about his drug use is a Herculean task that we wouldn’t wish on any spouse.
However, it is a process that must be completed as soon as possible. Failure to address your husband’s opiate abuse is going to encourage him to continue using. Even worse, it could cause him to worsen his cycle of use and increase his dependency. Having to bury your husband or father because of a drug overdose is going to be agonizing, and can only be avoided if you take the right steps to get him into an appropriate treatment center.
Heroin Use is Prominent in Adults
It might be hard to imagine how your husband could fall into heroin abuse. Most husbands or dads are more likely to drink alcohol at the end of the day or even pop a few benzodiazepines to keep their energy levels high. In fact, you might imagine that abuse of opiates of this type is mostly confined to younger people. However, that assumption is very wrong.
The National Institute on Drug Abuse reported that adults over the age of 26 are far more likely to abuse heroin during their lifetime. During one of their studies, this organization found that over two percent of all adults in this age range had abused this drug in their lifetime. A more shocking statistic showed that just under two percent had used heroin within the last week.
This high rate of drug abuse is part of the reason showcases the fact that heroin abuse doubled in just five years between 2007 and 2012. A growing number of adults are experimenting with this drug and are becoming addicted to it. The exact rates of addiction aren’t available because so many cases go unreported. In fact, situations like your husband’s are likely more common than they might seem.
How did this opioids epidemic begin in our country? The heavy prescription of opioids for pain-killing purposes is just one possible culprit. However, there are many other influences on drug abuse in this country. And if your husband has found himself struggling with a dependency to heroin, there is a good chance that he stumbled into this situation by accident and wasn’t seeking it out.
In fact, we think it is important to stress how often addiction begins in this way. Nobody tries heroin thinking “I want to be addicted to this for the rest of my life.” Your husband may merely have tried it out of curiosity or stumbled onto it by mistake. Whatever the reasons, it is essential to understand where this addiction started and to take steps to minimize its influence on your husband’s life.
Why Your Dad Might Be Addicted to Heroin
Trying to wrap your mind around the reality of your father’s addiction can be a significant challenge. Where did he get access to heroin in the first place? What compelled him to use? And how did a hardworking, intelligent, caring, and straight-laced man go from “Husband of the Year” contender to somebody who abuses heroin regularly? There’s a good chance that prescription drugs may have something to do with it.
Earlier, we mentioned that the opioids epidemic spreading across the nation is primarily fueled by prescription medications. While these medicines have their place in managing extreme pain after surgery, they are being prescribed too often by medical professionals. As a result, people like your husband or father are being exposed to dangerous and addictive medications and are being encouraged to use them.
Did your husband recently go through a medical procedure or surgery for something fairly serious? He probably had to use opiates or opioid medications to manage his pain. In fact, he may have been given these medications while he was unconscious, meaning that his addiction may have literally started without him doing a thing to get it going. Sadly, this situation is all too common today.
From that point, guessing how your husband or father started using heroin from there isn’t too hard. Finding himself addicted to opiate medications, he continually asked his doctor for more until they refused. At this point, his withdrawal became severe, and he couldn’t handle the pain. Who can blame him? Withdrawal symptoms from heroin and benzodiazepines can be lethal if they aren’t correctly managed.
Unfortunately, he found no other choice but to find an illicit source of opioids and found somebody who sells heroin. And from the moment this drug hit his vein, he was addicted. Situations like this happen to thousands of husbands and fathers every year and are very depressing. But what if your husband didn’t have an addiction to opiate medications but instead jumped straight to heroin? A mid-life crisis may be to blame for your husbands sudden behavioral changes, his increasingly erratic behavior, and his reliance on heroin.
Mid-Life Crises May Also Influence His Addiction
The concept of the mid-life crisis might seem cliched or silly, but thousands of men experience this problem every year. Essentially, a mid-life crisis occurs when somebody – usually, but not always, men – reaches a peak and feels like their life can’t get any better. As a result, they start doubting themselves and their path in life and wondering how they can change it.
Many men experiencing these feelings often start behaving like they are much younger than their age. Commonly, they will buy cars that they don’t need or start riding motorcycles. Some men will cheat on their spouses with much younger women or experiment sexually with other men. Others will turn to drugs, particularly if they had never tried them before when they were younger.
If your husband has been behaving strangely before he started using heroin, there is a good chance that he may be going through a mid-life crisis. Unfortunately, managing these crises of faith with a few counselor visits is much quicker than dealing with a dependency on heroin. However, you and your dad or husband can be this problem if you are willing to swap your roles as father and child or spouse.
A Role Reversal is Necessary for This Situation
Whatever the cause of your father’s or husband’s addiction, you need to take an active role in his recovery. We can understand if this is a tough situation for you to handle. After all, a role reversal is going to be necessary here for him to get over his dependency. Instead of him taking care of you, you are going to have to lead him by the hand to his rehab treatment.
Just about every parent has to go through this process at some point in their life. For example, age is likely to make it necessary for most to turn to their children for help when they reach senior citizen ages. However, dependency on drugs will make your husband or father even more reliant on you than ever, and will force you to take on the guiding role of a parent to your husband or father far too soon.
For example, you are going to have to help him choose a treatment center and a recovery type that suits his needs. Getting him to the rehab center is going to be up to you as well. Even worse, you may have to work with his insurance to find a payment plan to go through recovery. However, you have no choice but to take on this role if you want him to overcome his reliance on illicit substances.
One positive thing that may emerge from this situation – if anything good does result – is that your father is likely to respect you more and to trust you as an adult. Often, families going through emergencies like this emerge as stronger and more capable units. Therefore, it is essential to get him into a dual-diagnosis center as soon as possible after staging an intervention with loved ones.
Dual-Diagnosis is a Critical Part of This Process
While an intervention is a necessary element of helping your husband overcome his dependency on heroin, it is just the beginning. You can’t be expected to take care of him while he suffers from withdrawal symptoms and feels compelled to abuse this drug or other substances, like Xanax. Taking care of him in this state will be demanding and – most likely – impossible for you to do without help from a dual-diagnosis expert.
If you have never heard of dual-diagnosis, you need to understand it fully before your husband starts his treatment plan. Essentially, dual-diagnosis is the process of treating multiple elements of his addiction at the same time. After all, he isn’t suffering from just a physical problem – though that’s a significant element – but mental health concerns as well. In fact, there’s a good chance that these issues are fueling his physical addiction to even worse levels.
For example, think of the kind of depression and anxiety your father feels about abusing drugs. All of your life, he was the authority figure, somebody you could look up to as a human, and a considerable part of your moral development. Now, he sees himself as an addict, somebody who can’t control his behavior, and may believe that he is worthless. Of course, these perceptions are not accurate. Addiction is not a moral failing or an issue with self-control. Instead, dependency is a disease that must be fought and treated.
And that treatment can be achieved with dual-diagnosis. During his treatment, these self-perceptions and issues with his psychological health will be treated alongside his physical dependency. In this way, the cycle of abuse that often becomes an inescapable web can be broken, and your husband or father can emerge as a happy and healthy human being. It won’t be easy, but the 12 step program paired with this recovery method can heal his body, mind, and soul.
Help Your Husband or Father Beat His Addiction
It should be evident by now that an intervention into your husband’s or father’s heroin use is necessary to help him recover. While he might be too proud to admit it at first, you need to persist in getting him into the detox program that he needs to manage his addiction. However, you also need to make sure that his treatment and recovery method steers him from other substances, such as benzos, methamphetamine, and even prescription opioids.
If you feel trapped and aren’t sure where to turn, you should talk to us today to learn more about your recovery options. Our professionals have decades of experience working with people like your husband or father and understand how to implement dual-diagnosis practically. We will check him for any problems with his mental health, such as trauma, PTSD, anxiety, and depression and work hard to ensure that these elements are either eliminated from his life or minimized.
Call us now to get a free consultation about the treatment options available for your husband or father. With the help of our rehab center, you can minimize your loved one’s addiction to opiates and help him learn how to live a clean and sober life again. This process is going to be tough for both him and you, so don’t hesitate to let us do the hard work here. We promise that we will work our hardest to avoid letting you down and will do everything in our power to save their life.