5 Excuses Your Daughter Will Give You For Not Going Into TreatmentJune 24, 2016 - Addiction, Addiction Treatment, Recovery - 0 Comments
Helping anyone face their addiction and make the decision to enter rehab is a difficult task, but sometimes it is even more of a struggle with your own daughter. Your emotional pain and her capacity for denial opens the playing field for a number of excuses about why she doesn’t need rehab. Here are five of the most common reasons she will give you for why she can’t go and how you can respond to them, lovingly and rationally.
You are overreacting. Things aren’t as bad as you think.
Always remember that the brain of an alcoholic or addict sees things differently. The disease skews her perspective. In her mind things may not be very bad, because bad is a relative term. Her idea of ‘bad’ may be much different from yours because of the things she’s seen on her downward spiral. Alternatively, things really may not be as bad as you think in reality, but they are certainly serious enough that you are having this conversation.
I can’t afford to go to rehab.
This handy excuse doesn’t hold water either. With a little research, she can find rehabs that offer payment plans or scholarships. Some may even be free. If she truly adds up what she spends on her addiction in terms of buying the alcohol or drugs, lost time at work, and/or health issues, rehab probably is more affordable than she thinks.
I can’t leave my kids.
As an excuse, this one does a great job of tugging at heartstrings. However, it’s important to look at the bigger picture. What kind of home life do the children have with an addicted mother? Their emotional and perhaps physical safety is at risk.
I will lose my job if I take time off for rehab.
Again, a look at the bigger picture helps here. Chances are the addiction is already affecting her job performance, even if she doesn’t realize it or want to admit it. If her dependency continues to worsen, which it will, she won’t be able to keep a steady job.
I can stop anytime I want to. I’m not an addict.
This is probably the ultimate denial excuse. If you are talking with your daughter about her dependency, then she has a problem. Addicts will claim they aren’t addicted and she believes she can stop. However, they rarely do, if they really can.
Helping your daughter face her addiction and make this decision to attend a rehab will be difficult, but it is not impossible. Don’t buy into her excuses and don’t be angry about them. They are part of the addict’s mind set. However, rehab will definitely help that as well.
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